When I read Kai Cole's statement -- do read if you have somehow missed it -- I kept flashing on the pivotal conversation in Gaudy Night, in which Harriet and Peter talk about spouses who have eaten each other, and whether there is such a thing as a marriage in which nobody is eaten. Kai Cole was and is an architect. Starting, by her telling, with Buffy, she dedicated hersef to emotional labor for Joss Whedon, including producing projects that he worked on. Harriet Vane would tell you that Whedon ate Cole. And, going only by the direct quotations Cole gives, when Whedon confessed to her, he praised himself -- told her what a powerful stud he was, and that it wasn't his fault he was surrounded by "aggressive" actresses.
Whedon's public response to Cole's statement:
“While this account includes inaccuracies and misrepresentations which can be harmful to their family, Joss is not commenting, out of concern for his children and out of respect for his ex-wife.”
Let's unpack this.
1. Whedon cheated for over a decade, but Cole is the one who's hurting their children.
2. Whedon used feminism as a tool to get laid, but now he's showing Cole respect.
3. Cole has direct quotes from Whedon's letter, showing exactly who he is, but the account "includes inaccuracies and misrepresentations"
So. "You're a bad mother, and I could explain how much you're lying, but I won't because unlike you I'm a good father and respect the children and you."
Whedonesque, bless them, have gone read-only and shut down.
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Okay, not the barely-veiled anti-Semitism going into massive overdrive. That bit won't be fun.
--I didn't make further Defenders progress over the weekend, so I'm still only three episodes in. But I did get StarCraft Remastered up and running!
--The one thing I miss about having a CRT monitor (yes, I hear myself) is my old document holder, which can't be readily used on a flatscreen. I've been poking around online this weekend (Amazon, Staples, Newegg), and there are so few options for holders that actually attach to the monitor and hold the document you're typing at eye level. scruloose looked at the first couple of possibilities I found, and one looks like it needs more of a frame around the actual screen than my desktop monitor has, and the other sticks with something he thinks isn't likely to hold well on this monitor. I have great confidence that he can rig something up and make it work, once we go over the possibilities I've found so far, but I'm baffled by how few options there seem to be. (But maybe my dislike of having the document holder down on the desk--too low, and eating up a footprint of space on the desk surface--isn't widely shared.)
(The above means I fell into the rabbit hole of desk organizers etc. on Amazon. O_O I seem to have escaped alive.)
--AFAIK Nova Scotia won't see much sign of the eclipse tomorrow. I hope all of you who're able to see it, and who're excited about it, get a good look!
scruloose and I are new enough at the whole gardening thing that it didn't occur to either of us to check on the plants after the weather yesterday. Although I suppose a lot of the reason for that is that the weather didn't seem that bad? It was windy and quite rainy, but it didn't seem that windy, and the rain seemed like it'd be good for them. *sighs* But no, a couple of the tomato plants, including the towering Sungold, toppled over. In the Sungold's case, the Smartpot stayed put but the halo and rootball tipped out. o_o
I didn't get a look at it then; scruloose went out without me at first when I was still hoping it'd be a case of tipping the plants back upright. I'd just been in the shower, and it was dark, and I knew the mosquitoes--which, as we've established, find me tastier--were out. But scruloose didn't come right back in, so I put on a thick hoodie, hood and all, and zipped it up so only my hands and face and the tops of my feet were bare.
Hopefully the plants will be okay, now that they've had more supports added. We'll take another look tomorrow when there's light. But at the very least, I definitely have mosquito bites on the backs of both hands and the tops of both feet. Ugh. Sounds like we may have similar numbers of bites despite scruloose having been outside easily twice as long as I was.
I used about a quarter cup of baking soda mixed with a quarter cup of water for the cleaning of the hair. The baking soda, like on your stove, gets rid of grease, and after using it, did indeed leave my hair with that squeaky, lots of friction feeling that you get if you've ever used bar soap to wash your hair. The process itself I think I'll have to get used to. It doesn't foam or lather, and the mixture has low viscosity because of the water. I poured it over my head in bits, trying to mostly keep it on my scalp and get at the different parts. Then there was a bunch of baking soda not in solution that I just plopped on.
I think the water is mostly to be a conveyance rather than needing to dilute the baking soda at all. It's a buffer, so I'm not really worried about concentration, and you're in the shower so there's going to be more water everywhere. I think next time I might just have the powder with him and scoop it on mushy rather than with too much water. (I didn't actually go back and look up what I was supposed to do...)
After the baking soda was rinsed out I put on a quarter cup of apple cider vinegar mixed with a quarter cup of water. The reason for this I've read is that it neutralize the baking soda to keep you scalp in pH balance and also kills bacteria and stuff growing on your scalp, since it's an acid. Also it's supposed to be a natural natural something because it "removes build up and seals your hair cuticle." I'm not sure of the science, but it did work, making my hair feel smooth and clean again as if I'd used a conditioner. So all in all very good results. I used apple cider vinegar because I read somewhere that it's a little less acidic than white vinegar, and also because it doesn't smell as strong. I used what I had in my kitchen, so nothing special. It doesn't smell like vinegar to me at all, though my husband who can smell my head says it's faintly there. I certainly won't be knocking anyone over with it.
All in all, I'm pleased with the results. It's like I washed my hair or something. The real test will be how often I need it. The goal is less frequently than I had been needing to wash my hair with shampoo - ideally once a week or once every two weeks. That was the whole point of not washing my hair for six weeks, to make it so my scalp doesn't instantly produce grease as soon as it's cleaned. Keeping the pH balance to neutral with the base then acid rinse is supposed to help with that.
WIPs currently active: 5, because I bumped All Eternals Deck #2 off the list until I figure out what happens after the beginning.
Words written this week: 4,041
WIPs that got no words this week: 0
WIPs that did get words this week:
Codename: Aluminum Bastard (aka broken dick epic): 883, and I started writing Chapter 47 and then abruptly discovered where the floating point on the outline labeled [particular sex act redacted]? should go in the story, so. Whee!
Born in the Blood: 276, chugging along toward [more sex acts redacted]!!
Slavefic #6: 104. Okay, that looks bad? I’m at the point where I outlined things for this part of the series literally almost two years ago and now have to figure out how to hook them up with the stories that I’ve actually written, so there’s a bit of frantically-jury-rigging-a-round-CO2-
Wildly Unmanageable Ace!Bitty Longfic: 661
Jack/Bitty angsty happy ending kidfic: 2,117
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So, yes, it's looking like my tentative plans to make it to PAX Unplugged are crashing and burning at the moment. And there's a very good chance that I'm not going to have enough money to cover some bills that will be popping up in the next 2-3 weeks, which means I'm probably going to be going through my belongings and putting up another virtual garage sale post in the next few days.
Mainly because the universe fucking hates me right now. Apparently, at least.
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( spoilers )
So it was a good way to spend 7-ish hours, and it didn't leave me in a state of existential dread the way JJ did.
the other day, in anticipation of this show, I was making a list of ladies with robot arms, and I couldn't come up with many - Misty Knight, Nina Sharp, Lirael, Furiosa... who else is there?
Bread: on Monday, Greenstein's 100% Wholewheat Loaf, made up of ordinary strong wholemeal/wholemeal spelt/einkorn flours. Tasty but a bit crumbly for some reason.
Saturday breakfast rolls: the adaptable soft roll recipe, 4:1 strong white/buckwheat flour, dried blueberries, maple sugar.
Today's lunch: quails, which I cooked yesterday as they were well pushing their use-by date, according to a recipe from Clarissa Dickson Wright. The Game Cookbook, only that used fruit chutney, which I did not have, so used damson jelly instead, roasted in foil at Mark 3 for 30 minutes: not bad. Served with sticky rice in coconut milk with lime leaves, buttered spinach, and asparagus healthy-grilled in olive oil and splashed with aged organic balsamic vinegar.
Have started the overnight rising version of the bread recipe in Laurie Colwin's Home Cooking, which I haven't made for ages.
Have the trailer:
*I am aware that there are countries, indeed parts of the UK, where I'd be lucky to drive only 100 miles to the theatre, but this involved the M3 on a summer school holiday Saturday.
Hey there's an eclipse tomorrow!
I haven't heard anything about that at work or anything /sarcasm.
But I am excited for it, though I'm in the 80 percent zone, so not a total for me. For the 2024 eclipse, I'll make the effort to get somewhere to see totality.
Life experiments I am currently conducting:
1. Can I really go without washing my hair? I'm almost at the end of week 6, and it's been more of a trial than I was expecting. Backstory: I don't like showers. Don't ask. I don't know why. It's always been a thing. I tend to shower twice a week, often after exercising, and so my pattern for a long time has been to wash my hair twice a week. But then I got it in my head to try to transition away from shampoo, and the first step is to not wash your hair for 4-6 weeks to let your scalp's grease production stop being in overdrive. And I definitely turned a corner last weekend, when for the first time when I rinsed my hair it did not feel nearly as greasy as it had for the first five weeks. (To clarify: I still shower, I just am abstaining from hairwashing and only rinse with water.) It's still a little greasy but nowhere near where it was, and now that I've gotten this far I'm going to try the baking soda and vinegar this week to see how that goes.
I continue to read lots of Dragon Age fanfic. As you can probably tell by my lack of recs, none of the ones from the last two weeks or so have been good enough to rec. The one I finished yesterday which was an insane amount words, I should have stopped reading 100,000 words before the end. But I finished it. Because I just want to read DA fic and I'm in the dregs of my pairing so.. Yeah.
I'm really liking season 7 of Game of Thrones. I'm rewatching the first season since I have access to HBO for the moment, the good parts version, by which I mean Jon, Dany, Arya, Cersei, Jaime, Bran, and judicious skipping through Ned and Catlyn.
There are so many shows I want to catch up on... but not enough to stop reading DA fic.
Writing is still a chore and feels like I'm not getting anywhere.
I'm judiciously blocking out the real world news for certain blocks of time each day.
Donald Trump described anti-fascist and anti-racist demonstrators who converged on Boston as “anti-police agitators” on Saturday, in a tweet that seemed destined to revive the still simmering controversy over his remarks equating the far right and anti-Nazis in Charlottesville last weekend.
“Looks like many anti-police agitators in Boston,” Trump tweeted. “Police are looking tough and smart! Thank you.”
But he later seemed to back the right to demonstrate, posting: “Our great country has been divided for decades. Sometimes you need protest in order to heal, & we will heal, & be stronger than ever before!”
He added: “I want to applaud the many protestors in Boston who are speaking out against bigotry and hate. Our country will soon come together as one!”
And if you're not watching Grace and Frankie but you would like to know why I am, well. I'm more than happy to share. :)