That Whedon Thing

Aug. 21st, 2017 09:24 am
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I gave up on Joss Whedon, Male Feminist Icon, after the first episode of DOLLHOUSE.   I was creeped out by FIREFLY's Madonna/whore thing, but somehow I reasoned around it.   The revelation that he's been using that reputation to predate on women is horrible, but not a shock.

When I read Kai Cole's statement -- do read if you have somehow missed it -- I kept flashing on the pivotal conversation in Gaudy Night, in which Harriet and Peter talk about spouses who have eaten each other, and whether there is such a thing as a marriage in which nobody is eaten.  Kai Cole was and is an architect.  Starting, by her telling, with Buffy, she dedicated hersef to  emotional labor for Joss Whedon, including producing projects that he worked on.  Harriet Vane would tell you that Whedon ate Cole.  And, going only by the direct quotations Cole gives, when Whedon confessed to her, he praised himself -- told her what a powerful stud he was, and that it wasn't his fault he was surrounded by "aggressive" actresses.

Whedon's public response to Cole's statement:

“While this account includes inaccuracies and misrepresentations which can be harmful to their family, Joss is not commenting, out of concern for his children and out of respect for his ex-wife.”

Let's unpack this.  

1.  Whedon cheated for over a decade, but Cole is the one who's hurting their children.
2.  Whedon used feminism as a tool to get laid, but now he's showing Cole respect.
3.  Cole has direct quotes from Whedon's letter, showing exactly who he is, but the account "includes inaccuracies and misrepresentations"

So.  "You're a bad mother, and I could explain how much you're lying, but I won't because unlike you I'm a good father and respect the children and you."

Whedonesque, bless them, have gone read-only and shut down.

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Aug. 21st, 2017 05:22 am
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Aug. 21st, 2017 09:20 am
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Happy birthday, [personal profile] kerrypolka!

Movie: Tales from Earthsea (2006)

Aug. 21st, 2017 01:36 pm
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Last night, A nominated me to choose a movie to watch, so I picked Gedo Senki | Tales from Earthsea, a DVD I bought about a decade ago and then never actually watched.

Thoughts below the cut, with spoilers. )
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--The Sparkler Monthly Year 5 Kickstarter has only 48 hours left to go, and still needs about $5000. They've made a lot of progress over the weekend, and last year was a nail-biter too (and they made it), but ugh, this is stressful. Here's a post at Panel Patter outlining the awesomeness of the company and magazine, if you're on the fence or haven't taken a look but might be interested!

--I didn't make further Defenders progress over the weekend, so I'm still only three episodes in. But I did get StarCraft Remastered up and running!

--The one thing I miss about having a CRT monitor (yes, I hear myself) is my old document holder, which can't be readily used on a flatscreen. I've been poking around online this weekend (Amazon, Staples, Newegg), and there are so few options for holders that actually attach to the monitor and hold the document you're typing at eye level. [dreamwidth.org profile] scruloose looked at the first couple of possibilities I found, and one looks like it needs more of a frame around the actual screen than my desktop monitor has, and the other sticks with something he thinks isn't likely to hold well on this monitor. I have great confidence that he can rig something up and make it work, once we go over the possibilities I've found so far, but I'm baffled by how few options there seem to be. (But maybe my dislike of having the document holder down on the desk--too low, and eating up a footprint of space on the desk surface--isn't widely shared.)

(The above means I fell into the rabbit hole of desk organizers etc. on Amazon. O_O I seem to have escaped alive.)

--AFAIK Nova Scotia won't see much sign of the eclipse tomorrow. I hope all of you who're able to see it, and who're excited about it, get a good look!

[dreamwidth.org profile] scruloose and I are new enough at the whole gardening thing that it didn't occur to either of us to check on the plants after the weather yesterday. Although I suppose a lot of the reason for that is that the weather didn't seem that bad? It was windy and quite rainy, but it didn't seem that windy, and the rain seemed like it'd be good for them. *sighs* But no, a couple of the tomato plants, including the towering Sungold, toppled over. In the Sungold's case, the Smartpot stayed put but the halo and rootball tipped out. o_o

I didn't get a look at it then; [dreamwidth.org profile] scruloose went out without me at first when I was still hoping it'd be a case of tipping the plants back upright. I'd just been in the shower, and it was dark, and I knew the mosquitoes--which, as we've established, find me tastier--were out. But [dreamwidth.org profile] scruloose didn't come right back in, so I put on a thick hoodie, hood and all, and zipped it up so only my hands and face and the tops of my feet were bare.

Hopefully the plants will be okay, now that they've had more supports added. We'll take another look tomorrow when there's light. But at the very least, I definitely have mosquito bites on the backs of both hands and the tops of both feet. Ugh. Sounds like we may have similar numbers of bites despite [dreamwidth.org profile] scruloose having been outside easily twice as long as I was.

Hair update

Aug. 20th, 2017 11:32 pm
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Okay, since I was chatting with folks about it and we were working on house projects all day, I went ahead and washed my hair today! This is the first time in 6 weeks (ish). See this post for context.

I used about a quarter cup of baking soda mixed with a quarter cup of water for the cleaning of the hair. The baking soda, like on your stove, gets rid of grease, and after using it, did indeed leave my hair with that squeaky, lots of friction feeling that you get if you've ever used bar soap to wash your hair. The process itself I think I'll have to get used to. It doesn't foam or lather, and the mixture has low viscosity because of the water. I poured it over my head in bits, trying to mostly keep it on my scalp and get at the different parts. Then there was a bunch of baking soda not in solution that I just plopped on.

I think the water is mostly to be a conveyance rather than needing to dilute the baking soda at all. It's a buffer, so I'm not really worried about concentration, and you're in the shower so there's going to be more water everywhere. I think next time I might just have the powder with him and scoop it on mushy rather than with too much water. (I didn't actually go back and look up what I was supposed to do...)

After the baking soda was rinsed out I put on a quarter cup of apple cider vinegar mixed with a quarter cup of water. The reason for this I've read is that it neutralize the baking soda to keep you scalp in pH balance and also kills bacteria and stuff growing on your scalp, since it's an acid. Also it's supposed to be a natural natural something because it "removes build up and seals your hair cuticle." I'm not sure of the science, but it did work, making my hair feel smooth and clean again as if I'd used a conditioner. So all in all very good results. I used apple cider vinegar because I read somewhere that it's a little less acidic than white vinegar, and also because it doesn't smell as strong. I used what I had in my kitchen, so nothing special. It doesn't smell like vinegar to me at all, though my husband who can smell my head says it's faintly there. I certainly won't be knocking anyone over with it.

All in all, I'm pleased with the results. It's like I washed my hair or something. The real test will be how often I need it. The goal is less frequently than I had been needing to wash my hair with shampoo - ideally once a week or once every two weeks. That was the whole point of not washing my hair for six weeks, to make it so my scalp doesn't instantly produce grease as soon as it's cleaned. Keeping the pH balance to neutral with the base then acid rinse is supposed to help with that.

What I’m writing, 8/20

Aug. 21st, 2017 02:23 am
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…Some weeks just not starting more ginormous WIPs is the real success, okay? I expended a lot of focus on absolutely positively not starting SEVERAL things this week (and… yep, that is definitely the only thing that was using up brain processing cycles this week at an unusual rate, YEP, TOTALLY).

Anyway. 

WIPs currently active: 5, because I bumped All Eternals Deck #2 off the list until I figure out what happens after the beginning.

Words written this week: 4,041

WIPs that got no words this week: 0

WIPs that did get words this week:

Codename: Aluminum Bastard (aka broken dick epic): 883, and I started writing Chapter 47 and then abruptly discovered where the floating point on the outline labeled [particular sex act redacted]? should go in the story, so. Whee!

Born in the Blood: 276, chugging along toward [more sex acts redacted]!!

Slavefic #6: 104. Okay, that looks bad? I’m at the point where I outlined things for this part of the series literally almost two years ago and now have to figure out how to hook them up with the stories that I’ve actually written, so there’s a bit of frantically-jury-rigging-a-round-CO2-filter-from-square-components going on. Hopefully none of which will be apparent from the end result. :)

Wildly Unmanageable Ace!Bitty Longfic: 661

Jack/Bitty angsty happy ending kidfic: 2,117

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Grr. Argh.

Aug. 20th, 2017 09:02 pm
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I would like to state, for the record, that I seriously hate having finances that are in a state where all it takes is one unexpected larger expense to send me panicking. :-/

So, yes, it's looking like my tentative plans to make it to PAX Unplugged are crashing and burning at the moment. And there's a very good chance that I'm not going to have enough money to cover some bills that will be popping up in the next 2-3 weeks, which means I'm probably going to be going through my belongings and putting up another virtual garage sale post in the next few days.

Mainly because the universe fucking hates me right now. Apparently, at least.

It's been awhile since I posted it, so here's my Ko-fi page if anyone has an extra couple of dollars to spare. If anyone makes a donation, I'd be glad to try to write you a short fic in a fandom that I know. And, like I said before, I'll probably be posting a bunch of books and DVDs (and probably some other stuff as well) for sale in the next few days if anyone's interested in such things.
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I ended up marathoning all 8 episodes of Defenders last night. I enjoyed it. It doesn't have the same thematic cohesiveness that Jessica Jones does and the fights aren't as good as they were in the first season of Daredevil, but it's a fun ride if you enjoy the characters, and it helps that everyone else finds Danny Rand as annoying as the audience does. *hands*

spoilers )

So it was a good way to spend 7-ish hours, and it didn't leave me in a state of existential dread the way JJ did.

the other day, in anticipation of this show, I was making a list of ladies with robot arms, and I couldn't come up with many - Misty Knight, Nina Sharp, Lirael, Furiosa... who else is there?

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Culinary

Aug. 20th, 2017 08:44 pm
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Bread: on Monday, Greenstein's 100% Wholewheat Loaf, made up of ordinary strong wholemeal/wholemeal spelt/einkorn flours. Tasty but a bit crumbly for some reason.

Saturday breakfast rolls: the adaptable soft roll recipe, 4:1 strong white/buckwheat flour, dried blueberries, maple sugar.

Today's lunch: quails, which I cooked yesterday as they were well pushing their use-by date, according to a recipe from Clarissa Dickson Wright. The Game Cookbook, only that used fruit chutney, which I did not have, so used damson jelly instead, roasted in foil at Mark 3 for 30 minutes: not bad. Served with sticky rice in coconut milk with lime leaves, buttered spinach, and asparagus healthy-grilled in olive oil and splashed with aged organic balsamic vinegar.

Have started the overnight rising version of the bread recipe in Laurie Colwin's Home Cooking, which I haven't made for ages.

If I were a rich man

Aug. 20th, 2017 07:41 pm
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I would have paid a chauffeur to drive me the hundred miles to Chichester to see Fiddler on the Roof yesterday*. As I'm not, I had to do it myself. Fortunately the strong reviews of the production didn't let me down and it was excellent. Omid Djalili was terrific as Tevye, Tracy-Ann Oberman moved Golde beyond cliché, and the younger generation could all sing, act, and dance, the first of which is regrettably not always guaranteed in musicals. The production/direction did an excellent job of conveying not only entertaining song and dance, but a story of some weight, and I ended up finding it very moving. I have seen it before, but about 25 years ago so I couldn't say which I thought was better. But I remember scenes from that West Yorkshire Playhouse that struck me then, and I'm sure I'll continue to remember this. I'm tempted to read the original stories it's based on for a comparison.

Have the trailer:



*I am aware that there are countries, indeed parts of the UK, where I'd be lucky to drive only 100 miles to the theatre, but this involved the M3 on a summer school holiday Saturday.

lifely update

Aug. 20th, 2017 12:35 pm
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Right. So I've been having the same log in problems to DW that others seem to be experiencing. Firefox logins were not working, and I followed advice I saw on someone's DW about shutting down, restarting, and not using a bookmark to get to my page. The the log in worked. Safari was working but I use FB on Safari so I try not to cross the browser streams. I submitted a support ticket, and for anyone who didn't now you can do that without being logged in by email: support@dreamwidth.org

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Hey there's an eclipse tomorrow!

I haven't heard anything about that at work or anything /sarcasm.

But I am excited for it, though I'm in the 80 percent zone, so not a total for me. For the 2024 eclipse, I'll make the effort to get somewhere to see totality.

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Life experiments I am currently conducting:
1. Can I really go without washing my hair? I'm almost at the end of week 6, and it's been more of a trial than I was expecting. Backstory: I don't like showers. Don't ask. I don't know why. It's always been a thing. I tend to shower twice a week, often after exercising, and so my pattern for a long time has been to wash my hair twice a week. But then I got it in my head to try to transition away from shampoo, and the first step is to not wash your hair for 4-6 weeks to let your scalp's grease production stop being in overdrive. And I definitely turned a corner last weekend, when for the first time when I rinsed my hair it did not feel nearly as greasy as it had for the first five weeks. (To clarify: I still shower, I just am abstaining from hairwashing and only rinse with water.) It's still a little greasy but nowhere near where it was, and now that I've gotten this far I'm going to try the baking soda and vinegar this week to see how that goes.

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I continue to read lots of Dragon Age fanfic. As you can probably tell by my lack of recs, none of the ones from the last two weeks or so have been good enough to rec. The one I finished yesterday which was an insane amount words, I should have stopped reading 100,000 words before the end. But I finished it. Because I just want to read DA fic and I'm in the dregs of my pairing so.. Yeah.

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I'm really liking season 7 of Game of Thrones. I'm rewatching the first season since I have access to HBO for the moment, the good parts version, by which I mean Jon, Dany, Arya, Cersei, Jaime, Bran, and judicious skipping through Ned and Catlyn.

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There are so many shows I want to catch up on... but not enough to stop reading DA fic.

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Writing is still a chore and feels like I'm not getting anywhere.

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I'm judiciously blocking out the real world news for certain blocks of time each day.

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Aug. 20th, 2017 12:28 pm
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Happy birthday, [personal profile] gmh and [personal profile] ravurian!
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https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2017/aug/19/boston-protest-free-speech-rally

Donald Trump described anti-fascist and anti-racist demonstrators who converged on Boston as “anti-police agitators” on Saturday, in a tweet that seemed destined to revive the still simmering controversy over his remarks equating the far right and anti-Nazis in Charlottesville last weekend.

“Looks like many anti-police agitators in Boston,” Trump tweeted. “Police are looking tough and smart! Thank you.”

But he later seemed to back the right to demonstrate, posting: “Our great country has been divided for decades. Sometimes you need protest in order to heal, & we will heal, & be stronger than ever before!”

He added: “I want to applaud the many protestors in Boston who are speaking out against bigotry and hate. Our country will soon come together as one!”

[fic fic and more fic]

Aug. 19th, 2017 08:46 pm
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For the first time in a very long time I am writing fic outside of the constraints of a ficathon. In fact, I've written nearly ten thousand words in the last two weeks (which is a fair bit for me, and I think more than I wrote all of last year put together). So, hey! If any of you are also watching Grace and Frankie on Netflix, check out my ongoing run of pre-series ruminations, The Past Forty Years. It includes four stories thus far: The Undertow (Grace and Frankie early on, and the weight of all the things they don't know how to see about each other); The Difference (does it feel strange when Frankie looks at her, or is Grace imagining it?); The Space Between (how to reach out and touch someone, or, as the case may be, fail to connect); The Mark (Grace and the relationships she never quite expected to be so changed by).

And if you're not watching Grace and Frankie but you would like to know why I am, well. I'm more than happy to share. :)
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